tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post8353921204338077900..comments2023-10-26T07:41:45.395-04:00Comments on RACING WITH BABES: bad parenting 101 ...TMB @ RACING WITH BABEShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12670409852045798697noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-43524988342694639762011-02-04T20:14:15.029-05:002011-02-04T20:14:15.029-05:00I tagged you on my blog for an award!I tagged you on my blog for an award!AbigailRunshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15324843126838036050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-44022973067909559542011-02-04T14:36:45.104-05:002011-02-04T14:36:45.104-05:00I don't think it's bad parenting... I thin...I don't think it's bad parenting... I think you had good intentions. Don't beat yourself up over it... you're looking out for your little ones - that makes a good momma!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09771758178064698651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-1786474789482734772011-02-03T21:55:45.954-05:002011-02-03T21:55:45.954-05:00we've all been there!! I find it so hard to t...we've all been there!! I find it so hard to teach the balance of non-judgement but also teach them that it is not healthy to be overweight. Do we correct them when they talk about being 'fat', etc?Julie D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08422741135790771406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-72536024018299428432011-02-03T03:38:51.466-05:002011-02-03T03:38:51.466-05:00I don't know if I'd call that bad parentin...I don't know if I'd call that bad parenting. All you want to do is protect your babies from all the bad stuff in life - and that aint bad.Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13819714901550763235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-6838387821350236982011-02-02T22:04:17.956-05:002011-02-02T22:04:17.956-05:00D. will probably ponder that for days, weeks or mo...D. will probably ponder that for days, weeks or months and come back at you with something deep and thought-provoking. Life's lessons.<br /><br />It's hard to think inside your head when you're a parent. But, this has opened the door for a "real" conversation for you to have with her about fitness and lifestyle. We all have them with our kiddos at some time.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08183174254927897857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-42712683184591883652011-02-02T21:37:17.525-05:002011-02-02T21:37:17.525-05:00that is so hard! I've been there before many t...that is so hard! I've been there before many times when there are so many thoughts that I literally bite my tongue...and sometimes I blurt and instantly regret. But we are only human and sometimes it happens. don't be so hard on yourself.Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15221898859123353864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-6954624471772980142011-02-02T21:34:58.323-05:002011-02-02T21:34:58.323-05:00We all have moments when we say things we don'...We all have moments when we say things we don't mean to say to our kids.<br /><br />I hear you though. I'm already fighting with S about healthy food choices and I've more than once called a food "bad", which is not really how I want to handle the food issues.MCM Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10588793352268224508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-5055993485436123522011-02-02T17:46:06.745-05:002011-02-02T17:46:06.745-05:00Oh, don't feel bad. I honestly wish my parent...Oh, don't feel bad. I honestly wish my parents had said something like that to me when I was a kid instead of, "Sure, you can have another bowl of ice cream while you sit on your duff and play Nintendo."<br /><br />But in Dizzle's defense, I have days where I just want to watch TV and eat too. hahaPam @ herbieontherun.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08198123992152626641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-32428880618869682172011-02-02T17:46:03.893-05:002011-02-02T17:46:03.893-05:00Oh, don't feel bad. I honestly wish my parent...Oh, don't feel bad. I honestly wish my parents had said something like that to me when I was a kid instead of, "Sure, you can have another bowl of ice cream while you sit on your duff and play Nintendo."<br /><br />But in Dizzle's defense, I have days where I just want to watch TV and eat too. hahaPam @ herbieontherun.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08198123992152626641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-18653921684816697652011-02-02T14:00:54.515-05:002011-02-02T14:00:54.515-05:00Geesh, did I get on a soap box? Sorry.Geesh, did I get on a soap box? Sorry.Shellyrm ~ just a country runnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03822262051285512641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-53114837733696843692011-02-02T13:54:01.562-05:002011-02-02T13:54:01.562-05:00We all project our fears about our children's ...We all project our fears about our children's futures. The reality is that we can only guide them. The day will come when we are not there and they will make their own choices. Yeah, you know this. I realize that BUT I'm living that now. I luckily have two other younger children to apply what I am learning to. With them I realize that I am NOT going to make copies of myself through them (everyone reading this comment stop saying that you don't partially do this. Every parent does. We want kids to be all the "good" qualities we think we have.) I wish I could take back all the times I made my oldest feel like he wasn't good enough. I never meant to do it but I know that I did. Because he feels it now. In my desire to encourage him to push harder, I made him feel like his effort wasn't enough. I made him feel like his choices were never the right ones. And I am determined to not do it with my younger two and I am trying to support my oldest through choices that I don't really want him to make. So I remember to tell the kids what a good effort they've made when they do something even if I feel they could do more. I remember to keep my ears open to hear what I am really saying, what my kids really hear when I speak. They are 9 and 2 and I am a grownup talking about comittments to teams and healtly eating and body images.<br />If this was your first slip up, congratulations! I forget that you are so young or that I am so much older. I think you are a wonderfully balanced parent. Thanks for sharing this with everyone. Your kids will do so much more of what you do than they ever do of what you say, so I think you are on the right track!Shellyrm ~ just a country runnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03822262051285512641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-7123859294716460332011-02-02T13:00:18.536-05:002011-02-02T13:00:18.536-05:00I probably would have panicked a little at the I j...I probably would have panicked a little at the I just want to watch tv and eat comment! Where did that come from? Concentrate on the commitment part. I was always real big on that! Don't worry! You haven't given her food issues. She is going to watch your example for food and exercise.ajhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851129364728161965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-19756515322341987692011-02-02T12:56:35.780-05:002011-02-02T12:56:35.780-05:00oh, I've been there, you can't help it som...oh, I've been there, you can't help it sometimes. I yelled at my son at a soccer game last fall, I was That Mom. He definitely didn't inherit my athletic gene.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00144512028031455208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-49445254547699573662011-02-02T11:59:56.643-05:002011-02-02T11:59:56.643-05:00Dont' beat yourself up. Words slip and you ca...Dont' beat yourself up. Words slip and you can correct the statement by your future actions and words. I don't always have the right responses to my kids' questions/complaints but although you weren't happy you said it...you were sort of speaking the truth. You don't hate the people you were referencing..you were disliking the lifestyle.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150966090224912841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-85866859789061826442011-02-02T11:25:53.928-05:002011-02-02T11:25:53.928-05:00OOPS!! I totally know those moments when frustrat...OOPS!! I totally know those moments when frustration takes over and you immediately regret what you say.. I am sure she knew what you meant..Mel -Tall Mom on the Runhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777751504773574393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-83998261627084015032011-02-02T11:16:58.742-05:002011-02-02T11:16:58.742-05:00Oh man, I think some form of that conversation has...Oh man, I think some form of that conversation has happened to all of us. It's definitely tough to keep some of the thoughts at bay, but I wouldn't stress about it too much! You are a great mother and you being healthy is a great way to teach them the benefits of living a healthy lifestyle!Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17553067128072502179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-48024403901355102912011-02-02T10:53:28.652-05:002011-02-02T10:53:28.652-05:00I've had that moment. More than once. I have...I've had that moment. More than once. I have to fight to keep my weight in check. I want healthy habits for the kids so they dont have to worry about that.<br /><br />And, as a side note, based on your photos, I always thought you were petite. No clue you were tall (I'm 5'11").Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-37838062815297869912011-02-02T10:44:41.986-05:002011-02-02T10:44:41.986-05:00Are you kidding me? You are an amazing mother! M...Are you kidding me? You are an amazing mother! My son went through a phase like that. If you keep leading my example, she'll soon start begging to run 5k's with you!AbigailRunshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15324843126838036050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-17620402192834965492011-02-02T10:18:30.680-05:002011-02-02T10:18:30.680-05:00oh no! Its kind of funny that she picked those two...oh no! Its kind of funny that she picked those two things to do (watch tv and eat)lol!<br />I dont blame youI probably would have done the same thing.RunningWithSass.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13504368433791938659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-47500281683093015702011-02-02T10:15:12.087-05:002011-02-02T10:15:12.087-05:00It's such a tough balance with girls, I feel y...It's such a tough balance with girls, I feel your pain. Everyone melts down, it happens, for me especially when I feel strongly about something or see my kids making te same dumb mistakes I did. The best you can do is lead by example, and I bet you do a fab job at that :Dgiraffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06643989887305414709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-73833274351434176112011-02-02T10:10:48.510-05:002011-02-02T10:10:48.510-05:00Oh honey don't be so hard on yourself. I total...Oh honey don't be so hard on yourself. I totally agree with what you said about ballet and the commitment. I will never let my kids quit something once they've committed to it. I think that's great. <br /><br />And you have two little girls. It's very hard not to be wary of their eating and exercising habits. You want them to be healthy. It's a great responsibility you bear...just know you are doing a great job. I wish my parents had practiced good eating and exercising habits. That's why I run and work out. To show my boys that it's just habit. <br /><br />Like I said, don't be too hard on yourself.S Club Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061586966925524808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-7246501882928619672011-02-02T09:57:36.642-05:002011-02-02T09:57:36.642-05:00What did you say after that? Did you apologize to ...What did you say after that? Did you apologize to her? The thing I always hear is that you will say things you regret and can't take back... but you can address the aftermath. <br /><br />Like telling her you should not have said that, and then building up her body image.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-54651468299254922222011-02-02T09:00:07.495-05:002011-02-02T09:00:07.495-05:00If you ever feel guilty about your parenting, I th...If you ever feel guilty about your parenting, I think you should watch an episode of Toddlers & Tiaras. *cringe*<br /><br />You just want the best for your kids and you are teaching them the best way you can.Marlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230997094889375925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-11748503535308884942011-02-02T08:45:54.211-05:002011-02-02T08:45:54.211-05:00Boy I've been there, done that!! My 2 older on...Boy I've been there, done that!! My 2 older ones now 14 and 13 can really be LAZY! Now they are slender by far but I get freaked when they just want to do nothing, watch tv, play on the computer. It's really ok to be freaked. This world has a scary future. We have 5 kids and can't afford extra stuff like dance lessons, so it's even harder for me. Don't fault yourself too much. You as a mom are allowed to have fears and be human. Your an AWESOME mom!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3732829991335734426.post-64135014320066952482011-02-02T08:34:20.391-05:002011-02-02T08:34:20.391-05:00I know exactly what you mean. I always had poor bo...I know exactly what you mean. I always had poor body image and it didn't improve until I was an (active) mom. I don't want my kids to get the wrong image.Cat B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11188222956891989012noreply@blogger.com