Tuesday, January 22, 2013

perspective ...

The older I get, the more I realize that everything in life boils down to perspective. Unfortunately, it can be really hard to find the right perspective when you are deep in the trenches. When things are fresh, it's easy to get wrapped up in emotions and lose your common sense.

I see it constantly with my children. They have such a limited scope that they often fuss, worry and obsess about things that are going to be meaningless down the road. I often find myself stepping in, trying to rationalize with them. But, ultimately, you can't rationalize with someone when they are emotional. I'm not sure that anyone can really "hear" you when they are fired up with emotion. And sometimes, it's best to leave things unsaid.

And my children aren't alone in this. I'm sure it happens to everyone. I know it happens to me.

There have been many times I have been smacked in the face with a reality I didn't want to or was too scared to accept. I tried to escape the negativity, but just kept getting sucked back in. The thing is that without the right perspective, it can be impossible to move on.

Maybe you changed or someone else did. Maybe things were never really what you had imagined them to be. Maybe you were grasping for something you thought you wanted, something that would make you a better you, something you didn't even realize was driving you. And then, it's just not.

Suddenly, you are left questioning what happened and why. You torture yourself with "what if" and "if only". But really, nothing is going to make you feel any better. Nothing except time. And perspective.

And it happens just like that. One day you wake up and realize that the emotions are gone and so is the hurt. You no longer care why things ended up as they did. You just accept that everything is the way it should be. And more often than not, you are left questioning why you even cared in the first place.

People come and go.
We succeed and we fail.
Pain is only temporary.
No matter how hard to try, you can't force yourself to be something you're not.
Life goes on.

And perspective is what gives us the strength (and comfort) to accept these realities.

12 comments:

Michele said...

GREAT post.... just when I needed it. Thanks!

giraffy said...

I consider perspective a ton. Great post.

Jill said...

Life is funny like that! It's nice to get on the other side of things and see it from a different perspective.

Tough Chik said...

One of my mom's favorite saying when I was a kid was, "In 5 years you won't even remember this (or you won't remember him or won't remember your hair cut...) Perspective is priceless. Great post!

fancy nancy said...

Well said! It's hard often times to accept in the situation but yes perspective is priceless!

Jessica (Pace of Me) said...

SO TRUE. This has been on my mind a TON lately. Miss you so much.

Rebecca Rider said...

Thank you for this wonderful post - its so important to remember!!!

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner said...

Sounds like there's more to the story. glad you have framed it in a healthy way.

workout mommy said...

I want to HUG you for this post! :)

Kerrie T. said...

Well said.

Erika said...

It's like you're in my brain...perfectly put and exactly what I'm trying to come to grips with, especially with a few situations in life that are bringing me down when they clearly shouldn't!

Colleen said...

You hit the nail on the head with this one Tonia! ;)