Tuesday, November 29, 2011

supported ...

I feel that sometimes I take J for granted. He is 100% supportive of me, my crazy goals and pretty much anything I throw his way. I always know that if I want or need something, he is going to find a way to make it happen. He probably just wants me to be happy, but I have to wonder if he just doesn't see the point in fighting the inevitable (either way, I'm fine with it). It's true that I appreciate him and I do my best to make that clear to him, but I often forget that my situation is not necessarily standard. In fact, it might be unique.

To be honest, J and I have never had an all out fight.
Neither of us has ever left angry.
I've never said anything to him that I've regretted. And I'm sure he hasn't either.
We are a team through and through.

It's true that we don't agree on everything and at times we get on each others' nerves, but when it comes to the big stuff, we know that the individual pieces are less important that the end result. We know how to compromise without anyone feeling like they got the short end of the stick. We appreciate what each person brings to the table and we understand that we couldn't do it all alone. We want nothing more than for each other to succeed and to love every step of the process.

This thinking is so ingrained, that I often forget that this isn't the case for everyone. I forget that some people are faced with resistance and resentment. I forget that getting full support from the people in your life is not a requirement. I forget that they can choose otherwise. And it's in those moments that I see how good I've got it.

So J, if I haven't said it recently, thank you for believing in me. Thank you for being my rock. Thank you for never trying to squelch my dreams. And thank you for being my partner in all of this. I can't imagine a better person to navigate this life with.

19 comments:

Marlene said...

You guys really seem to have it all figured out - true inspirations for making it work. Nice post!

Lauren {sweat junkie} said...

That's AWESOME. I forget how lucky I am to be supported and how good I've got it, too, sometimes. It's easy to take that for granted.

Carrie @ Maine Mom on the Run said...

It is easy to take it for granted sometimes. I am so lucky to have a supportive husband, too. I just called him to tell him so!

Running Ricig said...

This is so sweet! You guys are awesome.

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner said...

You are a seriously blessed girl in many ways.

Lisa Ann said...

You guys have such a great partnership - that's what marriage is supposed to be all about. And you do it so well, just like everything else you accomplish in life :-). Luckily, I can say many of the same things of my own relationship with my partner - its a great way to go thru life!

Aimee said...

Awww! I love this! I feel the exact same way about my husband!

Michelle said...

Best gift! A lifetime loving partner who doesn't sweat the small stuff and can see the big picture. A commitment to marriage, friendship and your children. LOVE THIS! I feel this blessed also!-

Katie said...

So cute! Thanks for reminding me, too. How lucky I am! I often forget that not everyone has a great husband like I do!

carrie said...

Awesome! You are truly blessed!! Enjoy it for me please! My hubby sees my running as "the other man". He was put off by the fact that he had to leave the house on Thanksgiving morning to come and pick me up after my first half. It hurt, a lot.

runningforthree said...

Thank you for this post. I think I needed it. I'm happy you have such a solid partner. I'm sure he knows how much you appreciate it.

Mom_2_Pippa said...

I couldnt have written a post about my husband any better! He is the same and like you, I think we are the exception to the rule, which is strange and kinda sad to me. I have said many, many times that I wish everyone could be in a marriage like mine. Nice to see someone else who is!!

Running Backwards in High Heels said...

This is awesome! It is hard to remember that not everyone has awesome partners to support you through the crazy :)

itslifemaxitout.com said...

You are lucky and thanks for reminding me how lucky I am also!

Pam said...

Love this. Love, love, love, love LOVE this.

Jen said...

I wanna a J! Love that he supports you... and your success proves it!

Christine said...

Aww, that is sweet. Thanks for reminding, we are luck. This is so important and many times taken for granted.

Mary IronMatron said...

I want a J! Just kidding. I have an A. We have big drag out fights... but more often we are like you and j. Glad you are appreciating him. :)

Elizabeth said...

this makes me smile. I think I have met my version of J-just waiting to see if its the real deal…but i think it is :)