Friday, March 23, 2012

Live Like the Honey Badger: Principle 7

This is the seventh in a series of posts entitled, Live Like the Honey Badger. Every Friday, I address one aspect of developing confidence, self-worth, a fearless nature and the like. Previous weeks are linked below.

Principle 1: Honey Badger Don't Care
Principle 2: Accept Yourself. Your Whole Self
Principle 3: Surround Yourself With Honey Badgers
Principle 4: Break the Mold
Principle 5: It's Not Selfish. It's Self Fulfilling 
Principle 6: It's Your Life. Take Responsibility

Principle 7: Find Your Strengths and Play to Them

Think back to your childhood.

Chances are you tried a lot of different things. Different sports, different games, different foods, different ways to "outsmart" your parents and probably a million other things. Over the course of many years and perhaps, sometimes instantly, you learned what you like and what you don't. And thus, those experiences and preferences shaped you into the individual that you are.

Now, think about the reasons behind why you like some things more than others.

With the exception of food preferences (i.e. flavors you like/dislike, not the food choices you make), your preferences are largely determined by how you view yourself in relation to the the activity or experience. Take school, for example. We all attend in one form or another. Yet, not everyone likes school. Now, why is this?

I would wager that the people who enjoyed school, especially as they aged, were the people who enjoyed learning, got the best grades and had a drive for academic excellence. In addition, individuals who experienced social acceptance and/or were not picked on, most likely enjoyed it as well.

However, this is not the case for everyone. What about the people who struggled to pass or were social outcasts? Chances are they hated school. And it makes sense.

Generally speaking, we like the things at which we excel and dislike those at which we struggle.

And there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, you'll be happier for it.

Everyone has something they are good at. And most people have lots of things they are good at.
  • Maybe you have a endless drive and determination.
  • Maybe you are a natural born leader. 
  • Maybe you have the ideal body type to run or swim or whatever.
  • Maybe you have a knack for organization. 
  • Maybe you are creative and crafty. 
  • Maybe you are mechanically inclined. 
  • Maybe you have a potential you have yet to discover. 
Regardless of what your natural or learned strengths are they all do the same thing.

They allow you to feel good about yourself. They give you more self worth. And they show you that you have potential to be successful.

And the first step to being successful is believing that you can be successful.

So, try new things.

Challenge yourself.

Find your strengths and play to them. You won't be disappointed.


Canuck Mom said...

So true!! Although at the moment I will admit I have a love/hate relationship with school because I am nearing the finish line. I will say that I am an academic girl. I was not an academic girl in high school though, which is funny. I did not become this way until I got my diploma in nursing in the 90's. I guess it took finding what I love. The same goes for running for me. I was never a track star, but got introduced to it for different reasons. I have always just loved it and loved doing it. I know I will never win a race, but I will certainly enjoy every moment my feet get to hit the pavement because bad or good it teaches you all about yourself and your strengths. Great posts TMB!!!

track coach and adorable wife said...

True words. I am loving the Honey Badger! Now it is time to BE the Honey Badger!

XLMIC said...

Pretty awesome post! Playing on one's strengths is such smart advice.

Jason said...

Great advice. Maybe we are good at something but haven't tried it yet so go for it. If it doesn't work out don't beat yourself up and keep trying.

Anonymous said...

Believe it or not I'm 41 and still don't know what I'm truly good at :/

BigHappyFamily said...

I agree with you. And, I think you need to be wise enough to know when you're strengths may change, and roll with it, and change the plan.