half truths ...

When I woke up this morning, I didn't want to get out of bed. I was comfortable. Sure, I set my alarm for 4:30 a.m. knowing it would be one of the only chances I had this week to swim. But, for a minute, I considered shutting off the alarm and rolling over. I told myself I'd find the time later. That I'd squeeze it in somewhere.

My heart and mind knew it was a lie. If I didn't get up in that very instant, I probably wouldn't swim until next Sunday. Not a big deal if you are just cross-training. But, kind of important if you are building your base so you can face 140.6. I reminded myself that some choices are worth getting up for. That I wasn't going to regret leaving my comfy bed once I jumped in that pool. It was just another in a long list of half-truths I've told myself over the years to keep my motivation high.

Truth be told, I did kind of regret leaving my bed when I jumped in that pool. It was cold. Much colder than it usual and it took some serious negotiation with myself to stay in.

Again, I told myself another half-truth. It's odd how something that is equal parts truth and lie can be completely motivating or stop you dead in your tracks. It all just depends on your perspective that day. And today, I chose to believe that there was a little more truth than lie in the promises I told myself. I had faith that I'd appreciate a solid effort more than a return to the warmth of my home. I had to. I know you never get anywhere you want to go unless you push yourself.

For 50 chilly minutes, I pushed past my desire to stop. I lost myself in counting laps and daydreams of swims to come. I thought about how hard it felt in that very moment and how much harder it will feel on race day. I acknowledged my weaknesses and envisioned a day when those weaknesses had been wiped away. It was just me, the water and a series of half-truths that I was choosing to have a little faith in.

When I got home, the sky was ablaze. Blue and pink. Orange and yellow.

All those half-truths had paid off. They got me right here to this very moment. A moment where the day seemed limitless and full of potential. It was worth every second.

funk ...

I'm in a funk.

It's absurd. 

I'm a freaking Honey Badger who's in a funk.

And there seems to be nothing I can do to shake it.

It started a few weeks ago and little by little has been consuming me.

Yesterday, I gave in.

Feeling bad and facing mental demons, I started my long run. Two and a half miles later, I couldn't fight the negativity anymore. I stopped the treadmill. Took a shower. And slept for 12 hours.

I woke up feeling even worse.

It was a total fail.
 
I know exactly what's bothering me.

I'm feeling inadequate.

Not only compared to those around me, but compared to my self-imposed expectations.

I feel like I am doing a lot of things decently, but nothing superbly.

And I freaking hate it.

It's hard to be positive all of the time.

It's hard to always be "on."

And it's really hard to admit your weaknesses.

I know mine.

Now I just need to find away to eliminate them.

love who you are ...

Yesterday afternoon, my mom called and told me how she had been bragging about me. This fact alone is not uncommon. She's a proud mama and is happy to let others know all about the things her children have accomplished.

The thing that struck me what the response she got from the women she was speaking to. She told them about my running, the amazing experiences this blog has afforded me, my coaching business and my 15 minutes of fame in Runner's World.

The women (who are also runners) said, "She sounds exactly like who I want to be."

Hmm? Really? You want to be a middle of the pack runner who squeezes in her workouts between carpool and her three daughters' potty breaks? Or if she's really lucky, at 5 a.m.? Or is it the year-round training without pay or sponsorship that sounds appealing? (Note: I'm totally open to sponsorship. Feel free to email me.)

On most days, when I look at myself, I want to be something better. Something more. I think this is a great way to approach life. It keeps me motivated and driven, moving forward in a sense. But the problem with this outlook is that it is easy to overlook how far I have come, how lucky I have been, and how amazing my life truly is. Getting caught up in what's next can make you miss out on what is.

I won't lie, I often forget to take into account is that today could be the best day I ever have. And honestly, today could be my last. It's important not to forget to to LOVE WHO YOU ARE right now, in this very instant.

And when that seems impossible, just remember that there is someone out there who wishes they were just like you.

success = perfection?

"The two hardest things to handle in life are failure and success."

That was my senior quote. I'm not really sure what made me pick it. Maybe, it just sounded profound to my 17 year old self. Truth is, I'm actually alright with success - especially when I am the one dictating the criteria of what makes something successful.

As a mother, a runner and a human being, in general, I'm constantly striving for success. The quest for success keeps me committed to my goals. Just as much as the fear of failure keeps me motivated to achieve them.

Success feels easy. It's comfortable. It's something you carry with pride.

Failure, on the other hand, is hard. It's painful. It's something you try to hide away.

They seem like polar opposites, but I think they are actually quite intertwined. And, running is the perfect example of this.

Have you ever finished a race and been 100% successful? I haven't. Even if I accomplish my goals or have an amazing performance, I almost always come up with something that could have improved upon. Some slight failure that if eliminated would have made me faster or stronger or better or more successful.

And maybe that's what makes success so hard to handle - the sheer fact that it is often equated with perfection. But, they are not the same thing. And they shouldn't be.

Perfection is unattainable.

Success is what happens when you accept that you are good enough. When you relish in your accomplishments and take pride in your achievements.

You set the standards for your own success. Be successful.

the answers, part 2 ...

Are you ready to learn even more about me? Remember, there will be a quiz tomorrow. So study up. And if you missed yesterday's answer post, you can check it out HERE. Now for the second half of questions ...

Julie Stubblefield asked: Have you always been athletic, or is this a passion you have realized later in life? I have always been athletic, but I was never a runner. I played soccer for 15 years, starting at age 3 and I dabbled with the sport post-college. When I was in the first grade, I began playing basketball, which I competed in until 10th grade. And when I was in 7th grade, I picked up the shot put and the discus. Throughout high school, I was a three-sport athlete in addition to playing soccer on a travel team. And as a senior, I was voted "Most Athletic"

After high school, I went on to compete for a Division 1 Track and Field team, which meant focusing on throwing and giving up my other sports. It wasn't until 2007 that I began running, but if I was given the opportunity, I would play soccer and throw again. I really loved both.

Miles for Breakfast asked: Will you ever do a 50km race? Or a 50mi race? (not a relay) Maybe. I've learned to never say never, but at this point in time, I have ZERO interest in a 50 miler. And I have only a slight interest in a 50K and it's definitely not enough to sign up for one.

RunHapi13 asked: If you were only allowed one race event in 2012, what one race would you choose and why? A 70.3 - without a doubt. Right now, I am deciding between three events. One of them will be my race and that will be my focus for 2012.

Run with Jess asked: What has been your ONE single favorite race ever?!?! And of course, why? I have two. My favorite race is the Disney Princess Half. I love everything about that event. The atmosphere. The course. The expo. The location. And this year's VIP treatment didn't suck either.

But, my favorite course to run is the HCA 8K at the Richmond Marathon. The 8K is my favorite distance to run and the course is awesome. Fast and flat with a downhill finish. Every time I have run it, I have crushed it.

Erika asked: What is your advice for how to balance your family and their needs while training and still finding time for yourself? To begin with, find a supportive spouse/significant other. J is 100% on board with all of my training/racing/etc. Without him, I'm not sure I would be able to train and race to the extent that I do.

Second, determine what you are willing to sacrifice. For me, I am willing to give up sleep and my own "free time" to accomplish my training. I am NOT willing to give up extensive "family time." Thus, I do the bulk of my training before my family is awake. The remainder is done after the kids are in bed at night, usually while J is still at work (or training himself).

Lastly, schedule everything. I start each week by planning when and where I am going to do all of my workouts. I talk it over with J. And I commit to it. Doing this makes it much easier to accomplish everything that I need to.

Mandi asked: What is your biggest piece of advice on how to get through difficult runs? Accept that not every run is going to be fantastic. And know that you are going to get through the tough ones. Sometimes, you need to take a break. Sometimes, you need to walk. Sometimes, you need to speed up and get it over with. But, I guarantee you will never be disappointed if you man-up and finish.

Running Ricig asked: What is the best thing you've ever eaten? This is tough. I'm totally obsessed with food. But, I would have to say that the chocolate souffle from the Black Angus Grille at the Wyndham in Nassau, Bahamas. J and I had dinner there on our honeymoon and it was pretty much the best meal ever and that souffle was the perfect ending. The sad thing is that I just checked the menu for the restaurant and they don't make it anymore.

Karen asked: You always seem so confident in yourself and comfortable with who you are. Are you ever plagued with self-doubt? Most definitely. My self-doubt tends to materialize at "crunch time." I start to question whether I am really capable or if I have just bolstered myself to think I am capable. Sometimes, I can fight the doubt, but sometimes I just cave in and fall apart.

Cat B. asked: Do you ever get in a 'running rut'? You know, when you just aren't interested in the run anymore. If so, how do you bust out of it? Honestly, no. I have never experienced that. And I have no idea how I would handle it.

CupCake@ Bigger Girls Can Run Too asked: Was there ever a time when you DNF or came close to calling it quits? Why? Just one time - when I crashed my bike at Muddy Buddy Richmond in May. A separated shoulder will do that to a person. Although, since I'm being honest, I tried to keep going and if I had been able to "pop" my shoulder back into place, I would have.

Other than that, I have never had a DNF. I am just too freaking stubborn. I would probably crawl across the finish line if I had to.

Sarah asked: What race do you have your eye on (but have not registered for)? Right now, I am deciding on my 70.3 goal race for next year. As of right now, it is between Patriots Half in September, Ironman 70.3 Florida in May and Ironman 70.3 EagleMan in June.

S Club Mama asked: If you couldn't run, what would you do to stay fit? Easy, I'd play soccer.

And what's your favorite song to run to? I don't really listen to music when I run since I am almost always running with other people. But, I'm a fan of any song I can sing along with. It makes the miles fly by.

Kurt @ Becoming An Ironman asked: So many people look at running 10, 20 miles and laugh; "I could never do that!" On top of that, you've recently put up a goal of doing a 70.3 triathlon. Do you feel that there is any sport or athletic event/endeavor that you would think "I could never do that" about for any reason? Or have you gotten to a point where you think you could tackle just about anything? At this point in time, an Ironman seems impossible. Outside of endurance events, I don't think I could ever do anything related to heights - I have a crazy fear of heights. Diving. Ski Jumping. Sky Diving. Bungee Jumping. Rappelling. Rock Climbing. Trapeze. All of those things are no gos.

TNTcoach Ken asked: What did you think of your photo and article in Runner World? I freaking loved it. The picture was awesome (as were the other ones they shot) and the article definitely expressed why I dress the way I do. Plus, I got to share this once in a lifetime experience with my girls and I wouldn't trade that for anything.

~K~ asked: How long have ya been running and what's your favorite race distance? I started running in August of 2007, so just about 4 years. And my favorite race distance is the 8K.

Jenn asked: What is your favorite cupcake flavor? Do you really think I could pick just one? My three favorites are Salted Caramel, Oreo Cheesecake and Frappechino.

Lisa asked: I seem to have chronic issues with my back and my knee that flare up once a year causing some unplanned time off. Do you have any chronic issues that affect your running? If so, how do you stay sane when you can't run for an extended period of time? Fortunately, I do not have any chronic issues, but both times I have had to take off running due to injury, I kept my sanity by cross-training.

Rene' asked: I am struggling with eating/nutrition and early am running. Do you have something that you eat before you do your early runs or do you eat as you go? Also, during a race Gels? shot blocks? If my run is shorter than an hour, I don't usually eat before. But if I am running longer or wake up hungry, I have either a GU, protein/Clif bar or a banana (although, I have been known to have a bowl of cereal too).

As for during the run nutrition, I don't eat anything on runs of less than two hours, unless it's a race. On race day and on 2+ hour runs, I use GU (chocolate outrage, mint chocolate or chocolate raspberry) usually every 5 miles or 45 minutes.

eep asked: What percentage of your miles do you do on the treadmill? I would say that I average about 30% of my mileage on the treadmill. Sometimes, I will go a month and never run on it. And when J is traveling, I have been know to log 40+ miles in a week on it. I am a wimp when it comes to running solo in unfavorable conditions. I will almost always choose the treadmill over running alone in the rain, heat or cold.

Running Moose asked: What is your all time favorite running memory? All of my favorite memories are ones I have shared with my family. Crossing the finish line with J during his first half marathon, running Dizzle's first 5K with her and pacing Doodle in her first half mile race would definitely be my top three.

What do you remember of your "first run"? When I started running, I used a walk/run method. And although, I don't remember the first time I laced up, I do remember those first few weeks and how long the run portion of the intervals felt. I used a six week program for my first 5K and I never ran 3 miles straight before race day. I was completely unsure that I would be able to on race day (I did, in case you were wondering).

the answers, part 1 ...

So, it only took me a week, but I have finally answered the questions from last Monday's Q & A post. And I've chosen a winner of a Runner's Goodie Bag. 42 of you asked me questions and thanks to random.org, #15 ~K~ is the lucky individual. Congrats! Email me to claim your prize.

And now for the first half of answers ...

Chris asked: What, for you, is the most difficult aspect of running? Is is getting up in the morning, finding time, dealing with injury, etc. Personally, I think that finding the proper nutritional balance is the most difficult aspect of running. At this point, I have figured out how to manage my schedule and have been smart with my training, helping me to avoid injury. But, I almost always fail on the nutritional end. In fact, I can almost always link a bad run to poor nutrition or hydration.

Marlene asked: What are you MOST excited about for your upcoming trip/race in NYC? I think the thing that is most exciting about the NYC Marathon is the fact that it's my first race with true elites. I think it's pretty cool to run the same course at the same time (albeit much slower) as so many amazing athletes. Oh, and I've heard the swag is pretty sweet too ...

Twila asked: Do you have any sayings you say in your head while your run? Like personal mantras? Currently, I have been repeating my favorite line from a Lemonade Mouth (Disney movie) song - "Push it till you can't and then demand more." I love it and I feel like it really encapsulates what I aspire to do as an athlete. But, honestly, it depends on the day. Sometimes, I just tell myself that it would be embarrassing to stop and that's enough to keep me going.

And if you only had 30 minutes a day to work out what would do you? Run. I don't run because I have to. I run because I love to.

runaroundaroo asked: If you could take a family vacation any where where would it be and for how long? Disregard budgets, time off work and such... Easy peasy - Australia. For at least two weeks. It's been my dream destination FOREVER. And J and I are planning on taking the kids there sometime in the next few years. I'm thinking we will probably go for our 10th anniversary in 2014. I'm not sure if J is thinking the same thing, but I usually get my way ...

Jen asked: What is the favorite hair color you have had over the years? Pink. But purple looks really good on me.

Stacy asked: You have an amazing amount of confidence. Were you always a confident person, and if not, to what do you attribute your inner strength? I have always been confident, and I think that most of that has to do with my parents. They always told me and my sisters that we were "The $h*t" and so, I believed it. When you are constantly told you are the best, you begin to be just that.

With that said, I think that my confidence has definitely flourished in the last few years. There is something about taking hold of your life and transforming yourself that will boost your confidence. When I look back at who I was and compare it to who I am now, I can't help but be proud of the positive changes I have made and I don't see any fault in sharing my "pride". Plus, I am surrounded by people who support me 100% (even if they think I am insane at times). How could you not be confident when so many others are believing in you?

massage momma asked: What is your favorite thing to wear while running? I know you might be shocked by this, but my favorite thing to wear while running is a skirt and knee high socks. I don't care if it's 110*, I am still going to rock the socks. I even wear them under my tights in the winter.

And is there one item or piece of gear that you absolutely HAVE to be wearing when you do a race? Sunglasses. Even if it's not sunny. My race photos would be tragic otherwise ...

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner asked: Fast forward 7 - 10 years the girls are all active and busy with sports and interests, how do you see your active lifestyle (running/racing) evolving to handle the shift from your time intensive goals to theirs? Maybe it's just me, but I actually think that fast forwarding 7-10 years would show that my goals have grown to be even more time intensive. Right now, I train in the "off" hours, logging most of my miles when my children are in bed (early morning and late nights). I am often limited by their schedules and by a lack of child care. Once they are all in school full time, I am going to gain a whole window of training time. Plus, I really hope that by that point, all my kids will be running/racing with me.

Zoë asked: What is the longest your hair has ever been? Ever - between my shoulder blades. As an adult - just past my shoulders. This was me in 2007 (Note: I straightened my hair this day. It's actually quite curly.)

The Boohers asked: Where do you get your awesome socks? A variety of places. But my favorites are from Little MisMatched, Dick's Sporting Goods (Reebok All Sport Socks), and RunningSkirts.com

ajh asked: Does anything embarrass you? If so what? Most definitely. I just try not to let things bother me for too long. I'm quite good at just "shaking it off." But I will say, one time, my father called me out of work and told them I had explosive diarrhea. I'm still embarrassed by that one.

Caroline asked: Who would you like to meet? I think this is the most challenging question I've been asked. I can not think of an answer. Seriously, I don't really have an "idol" and there's not really a celebrity that I am dying to meet. Maybe the cast of NCIS? That way I could thank them for providing me with hours of entertainment on the treadmill ...

And what is something you cannot tolerate? Lateness. It drives me crazy. I am notoriously early for things and it irks me when others keep me waiting.

And what is your dream race, if money is not a factor? The London Marathon. J and I started dating on a trip to England and I think it would be the most awesome thing to go back there and run that race with him. I think that if there is a half marathon option, I could probably convince him.

cql asked: Why wasn't Dilly in the RW pictures? For a few reasons.
1. They didn't ask her to be. I submitted a picture of Dizzle, Doodle and me and that's who the photo editor requested.
2. She didn't have the wardrobe.
3. She's 2 and 2 year olds don't always cooperate.

And what do you love most about blogging? Here's my top three:
1. Blogging allows me to document my family and our experiences on a daily basis. One day, I know my children will appreciate this.
2. It has afforded me many experiences I would have otherwise had, including meeting like-minded individuals, traveling to races, and being featured in Runner's World.
3. The free stuff doesn't suck.

Kortni asked: What is the best and worst running advice you have received? Best advice - If you want to improve, build a stronger base. Worse advice - Don't run so much. You are going to hurt yourself.

And, do you prefer to run solo or with your posse? Most days, running with my posse. But a solo run every now and then is nice too. It teaches me to appreciate always having someone to run with.

Linz asked: Can you tell us more about your experience upping your mileage? Your high weekly/monthly/yearly mileage has always impressed me - how did you get there? For a long time, I was running somewhere between 18 and 25 miles a week. Even for my first and second marathons, I peaked at 36 miles. When I decided to increase my base, I did it very slowly. Basically, I just stuck to the 10% rule and once the mileage of my mid-week runs was at about 6 miles, I added a 5th day of running. Adding that extra day, gave me the ability to spread out my total mileage better. Recently, I have added a 6th day which I am a HUGE fan of.

If you are going to build your base, you just need to be smart about it. Don't jump too fast in either distance or pace. Lots of easy, slow miles are the key. My body likes 40-50 miles per week. My mind wants to log 50-60 miles per week. Eventually, I will get the two to agree.

Melissa asked: What tips do you have for avoiding running injuries? There are a few things you can do, but I think the number one thing is to LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. Pushing through pain is just stupid. And you know the pain I am talking about. Pushing through discomfort is one thing, but pain is another. I try to live by the rule that if my pain is a 3 or more on a scale of 1-10, it's time to stop.

Also, it's never smart to mix increasing mileage with speed. If you are running all of your miles at tempo pace and then you start adding longer runs, you are just setting yourself up for disaster. Think, "one thing at a time."

XLMIC asked: Was your husband your first? You know what I mean. Yes, he was (and my kids better take that to heart). First serious relationship. First everything. He is and ( I feel confident saying) will always be my one true love.

And who is your celebrity crush? Why? Andreas Thorkildsen - Reigning Olympic Champion in the javelin (I'm a thrower at heart)

(source: norway.com)

Why? He's Olympic champ. And pretty much unstoppable in his discipline. Plus, did you see him? Isn't that reason enough? (And yes, J knows about my crush ...)

And if you could only read one blog from now on, which one would you choose? Mile Posts.

Holly asked: What question do people ask you the most? Don't you get hot in those socks? or Are those socks compression? Do you like them?

And do you/did you watch Biggest Loser? What do you think of Anna Kournikova? I watch the weigh ins. That's all I care about. As for Anna, I don't really have an opinion. But, I don't know if she's qualified to train people (as in certified). If she is, then good. If not, then why the heck is she a "trainer"?

Lucy asked: Do you have a pump up song you listen to before you run? If so, what is it? I almost never listen to music when I run. But, in general, I am loving "Determinate" by Lemonade Mouth.

Deanne asked: What motivated you to get started running? I started running to "lose the baby weight," but I kept doing it because I became passionate about it.

And what motivates you to get going on your daily workouts? I don't see workouts as an optional thing. Just like anything important, I schedule them in my day. When workout time rolls around, I get it done, even if I don't feel like it. I've yet to regret it.

And what motivates you to keep going until your workout is over? I don't like to think of myself as a quitter. I want to finish what I start. That almost always keeps me going.

Jess @ Blonde Ponytail asked: I think I know that cupcakes might be your fav post-race fuel, so what is your fav pre-race fuel? I have a mild obsession with Luna Protein Cookie Dough Bars. I love them.

And do you get car/van sick? Actually, yes. But usually only when I have overeaten, am dehydrated or can't see out the front window.

And who would play TMB in a movie? Someone totally bada**. I don't think I have a doppelganger, so I think it would have to be someone who shares my sheer awesomeness.

fear of "what if" ...

I feel like I am stuck in a funny place right now. I know I am not entirely recovered from my injury, but I know that I am light years ahead of where I was a few weeks ago. I want to do more. But, I don't want to do too much. I want to get off the treadmill and run with my friends. But, I don't want to face the realities that doing that could bring. I want to jump in, feet first. But, I don't want to get too invested.

I am living with the fear of "what if."

What if I try and fail?
What if I try and actually succeed?
What if I'm too far behind?
What if it's more than I can handle?
What if I set myself back?
What if it happens again?
What if my fear is the only thing holding me back?
What if?
What if?
What if?

Having fear of "what if" is a dangerous. But, almost all of us are afflicted. Just think about it.

Why haven't you purged your closet? What if I need it later ...
Why haven't you changed your eating habits? What if I can't live without xyz ...
Why haven't you tried to reach your dreams? What if I don't make it ...
Why haven't you pushed yourself past comfortable? What if it hurts (emotionally, physically, etc) ...

Sure, all of those things are possible. That's the thing about "what if", it breeds self-doubt. But, consider this, what if everything turned out perfectly? What if the thing you thought you could never handle allows you to shine?

"What if" can be full of potential. You just have to let it be ...

peer support ...

Making the choice to be healthy is challenging. We live in a world where inactivity and poor nutrition are fostered. We drive everywhere. There is a fast food restaurant every five feet. Fewer and fewer schools have a quality PE program. Obesity levels are at an all time high. Did you know that there is only one state with an obesity level of 20% or below? I didn't either. (It's Colorado, in case you were wondering).

We are an unhealthy nation. And it bothers the heck out of me. Because it wasn't inevitable. It was caused by a series of choices. Choices that each and every one of us is presented with.

Last night, I started reading Body by Design. In the early chapters, the author discusses the effect of our peer groups and support systems in the choices we make. Apparently, research has been done that shows that if an individual has obese friends, they are more likely to fall victim to obesity as well - even if they don't have face-to-face interactions with each other (think social network sites).

When I thought about it, it really started to make sense. As a teen, I was overweight. And so were my friends. We fostered each others negative behaviors. We (as a group) chose eating out over eating healthy and movie nights over workout sessions. Then, when I decided to make a change, I found myself drifting from those people, maybe intentionally, maybe not. And as I drifted, I formed new connections with people who supported, agreed with or shared my passion for health and fitness. And now, I am surrounded (both virtually and in real life) with individuals who "get me" and what I am trying to do. They understand why I would want to run a marathon or be a vegetarian, even if they don't aspire to do the same. They understand that my choices are intended to improve the quality of life for me and my whole family. They see the big picture.

Sure, there have been speed bumps along the way. I've encountered people who I thought were there for me, but their negativity was too great to overcome. So, I've left them behind and I'm better for it. It hasn't always been easy, but every struggle has been worth it. And I will continue this journey with the support of my peers (especially my loving husband who supports me 100% regardless of what I throw at him). And I will do my best to inspire the people around me to do the same, if for no other reason than to give back some of the support I have received ...

comfort zones ...

Comfortable is good. And comfortable is nice. Shoes should be comfortable. And so should pants, your sofa and your pillow. But if you live your life in a bubble of comfort, you'll become stagnant.

I was once told that, "if it's not uncomfortable then you're not making a change." That statement couldn't be more true. Take for example, the long run. When you first start running, a mile might seem like an eternity, but over time you add distance, pushing past the point of comfort (what you know) and before you know it three miles is short and six miles is "kind of a good workout." Your mind and body have adapted to the stresses placed upon them and you have evolved. You are changed. Stronger. Better.

Change is never made by standing still and staying in your comfort zone. And making a change is never easy. If it were, we would all be successful in every aspect of life. I truly believe that ANYONE can make ANYTHING happen with enough hard work and determination. But, I also believe that EVERYONE is stopped by self-imposed limits. We all have our "thing" that we just can't do. Or won't do. Or don't want to do. (For me, it's cutting out sweets, it's a nice thought, but I don't want it enough to put in the effort.)

At the end of the day, the only thing that stops us is ourselves. Don't let yourself get in the way of your successes. Push your limits, until they fall ...

you wanted to know, questions 51-55

When I had my 1,000 mile giveaway, a requirement for entry was to ask me a question. Any question. And I promised to answer them in a series of posts. Here are questions 51-55 ...

OrangeBlossom asked, "What was your first running injury? Did you run through the pain for a while and then take a break or did you just push through?"

My first running injury was a cyst in my ankle joint. It started to cause me pain about four weeks before my first marathon. And yes, I ran through the pain. And it was a dumb thing to do.

I thought that I could muscle through anything, but after my last long run before the marathon, I could barely walk. I went to the doctor and he suspected a stress fracture and sent me for an MRI. He told me that if I ran, I risked shattering my ankle. I told him that I had trained for 16 weeks and wasn't going to miss the race. (Yes, I realize the stupidity in that.)

Despite my attitude, I did go get the MRI. Unfortunately, the results didn't come back before the race, so I didn't see any good reason NOT to run. I made it to start line, but about six miles in I was already feeling the pain. I knew that I had to be conservative in order to finish, so I walked the first minute of every mile and ran the rest. Then at mile 16 or 17, the cyst ruptured and I was convinced that I had shattered my ankle. I could barely move. I called J and told him that I was going to be much later than expected, but that I would finish. I walked the next four miles. Then just after the 22 mile marker, my foot went numb. I popped two Advils and ran the rest of the race.

It was an incredibly dumb thing to do. And I wouldn't recommend it.

Momma Twitch asked, "On days that you don't want to run (which I'm sure are few and far between), how do you get your self going? What do you tell yourself?"

Usually, all I have to tell myself is that I won't regret running, but I will probably regret skipping it. I run five days a week, so if I am really not feeling it, I almost always can rearrange my runs or swap my rest days.

And if that doesn't work, I pull out an old picture of myself. Seeing the old me definitely keeps me motivated.

amomontherun asked, "What is your most embarrassing running experience?"

I'm not really sure that this is embarrassing, but it's the best I have. (And it could have turned out to be REALLY embarrassing.)

During the second 20 miler of marathon training last fall, I was wearing my pink cheetah skirt with a pair of underwear that I had not worn to run in before. Everything started out fine. G and I headed away from her house and a half mile later, disaster struck.

My underwear were completely off my butt. What could I do? I tried to pull them back up, but they wouldn't stay. I couldn't bear the thought of dealing with that for 20 miles. It would be horrible. Suddenly, I knew what to do. I told G that I would be right back. I ran off the side of the road and found as much cover as I could. Off came the running skirt. Off came the crappy underwear. Back on went the running skirt.

And I continued running.

Elizabeth asked, "What is your recovery routine?"

Drink some water. Eat some food (if I can remember to). Take a shower.

I wish I put more effort towards proper recovery, but I already feel like my running schedule takes up a lot of time and as soon as I walk in that door, my mommy hat goes back on and I am on-call. Maybe when my kids are older and more self-sufficient I'll make time for things like stretching, ice baths and massages ...

Parker_4 asked, "You run so much. Do you struggle with injuries?"

Fortunately, no. I have had injuries in the past (when my mileage was MUCH lower), but I have gotten over that whole "run through the pain" thing. I train smarter and slower and listen to my body. If I need a rest day, I take it. If something feels "off," I take the appropriate measures to remedy it before it is a real issue.

you wanted to know, questions 21-25

When I had my 1,000 mile giveaway, a requirement for entry was to ask me a question. Any question. And I promised to answer them in a series of posts. Here are questions 21-25 ...

Angie Bishop asked, "What do you typically eat during a day to stay fueled up for all these miles?"

Food. Lots of it. I am a big believer in keeping your calorie intake consistent from day to day. So, I try to eat about the same amount of calories each day, regardless of how far I run. For me, the happy number that keeps my weight from changing is somewhere from 2,200 - 2,800 calories (I weigh 150 pounds).

On a typical day, I eat 3 meals, 2 snacks and dessert. I almost never skip dessert. Breakfast is either two servings of cereal with skim milk or a fiber one bar and a chobani. Lunch is some sort of sandwich (PB and Banana, Turkey and Cheese, etc) and a fruit or veggie. Dinner is usually something involving black beans (burgers, burritos, chili). For dinner, we usually have vegetarian options. As a whole, we rarely eat red meat and have chicken/pork/fish/turkey about once a week.

Snacks include but are not limited to pretzels, popcorn, pita chips with hummus, veggies, fruit, cereal, Fiber One bars, and Clif Bars. And dessert - well, there are no rules about dessert.

But all joking aside, I try to eat cleanly. Simply put, food is fuel and I try to get the best I can without being obsessive about it. We don't eat very much meat. Most of my protein comes from beans and dairy sources. I don't do fried foods. I try to limit the amount of processed items. But I NEVER SAY NO to ANYTHING. Moderation is the key.

Angela asked, "Have any of your girls completed in any fun mile runs and if so, did you complete the run with them?"

Once. Dizzle ran a quarter-mile fun run when she was 3. It was so cute to watch and she started so fast that she quickly crashed. I do hope that they will all run more races in the future. But, honestly, I need to sacrifice my race schedule a little to make that happen for them. At this point though, they are consumed by ballet and soccer and have little concern for running. They all tell me that they will run when they are "older."

Pam asked, "I've seen you mention before that you don't ever stretch. a.) Why not? b.) How do you keep from getting injured?"

Um, yeah. About the stretching. It is true that I don't stretch. I just never have in the entire 25 years I have been an athlete. And if I am being frank here, I don't feel the need to stretch. Yes, it might be beneficial to some people, but not stretching does not increase your chance of injury. In fact, stretching improperly can cause injury. So, for me, I just don't see the point.

Personally, I keep from getting injured by listening to my body. If you catch the subtle signs that your body gives you, injuries can often be minimized.

Janet asked, "How do you find the motivation to stick to your running?"

When I initially started running, I found motivation by signing up for a race. I knew that I had to stick to the training because I did not want to be embarrassed on race day. It worked and over time, my pride started to give me the push I needed. I liked to be able to say that I ran a certain distance or finished in a certain time.

Once I realized that the end result was what I was seeking, my motivation became internalized. I have always been a self motivator. I just needed to figure out how to apply that to my running. Basically, I don't like to let people down, including myself. So, I set a goal and find a way to accomplish it. It's a system that works for me, but I'm sure it wouldn't work for everyone.

destinationathlete asked, "What's next? I mean, now that you've hit 1000 miles (which I believe was your goal for the year), what are you going to aim for next?"

The sky's the limit, right? Mileage wise, I will be happy with whatever I finish the year with. I have already hit my goal and now I am just looking to set a mark to beat next year. On the racing front, I am hoping to set PRs in the 8K, the half marathon and the marathon, by the end of the year. I'm feeling strong and I believe that I can do that.

energized ...

Running is hard. If it weren't everyone would do it and we wouldn't have an obesity problem.

But, it's not just hard on your body. It's a mental struggle - a struggle that varies from day to day. Even those crazy insane runners (like me), who will run 25 miles for fun, have those days when they just don't want to run. And sometimes, even if you LOVE to run, running may not be your friend.

Today was gearing up to be one of those days for me. Last night, I was dreading my scheduled 10 mile stroller run. I didn't want to do it. I was looking for anything to get me out of it. Could I wait until the evening? What about Sunday? Why not skip it all together?

When I woke up this morning, it was even worse. I couldn't get my head around the idea of another 10 miles. Seriously. What's another 10 miles when you have already run 1200? Is it really going to make a difference?

Without an answer, I got out of bed and started my day. I had a consultation/time trial at 6 a.m. with a new client and when I got there something changed. I was instantly re-energized. Sharing my love of running and seeing the excitement on R's face was what I needed. It reminded me of why I run and it made me want to tackle those 10 miles. Maybe the run will be great. Maybe it will be the worst I've had. But, it doesn't matter. I won't regret it either way.

what gets you moving?

Motivation is a weird thing. It's different for everybody. Some people are motivated by desire. Some by guilt. Some by other people. And just because you are motivated by one thing today, doesn't mean it will motivate you tomorrow. Personally, I am motivated by a lot of things. Myself, others holding me accountable, food, music, my skinny jeans ... and the list goes on.


You see, yesterday was day one of P90X. It kicked my butt. I thought I was hardcore and then this workout put me in my place. But I am going to stick with it. I just might need a little push, and that's where you all come in. In an attempt to keep me motivated, I am going to put myself out there. I am sharing my before pictures and measurements. And after each phase, I am going to check in here. (Does anyone else see how this could totally blow up in my face?) So, here it goes.


Day 1:
Weight: 152
Body Fat Percentage: 23%
Chest: 35 1/2"
Waist: 30 3/4"
Hips: 37"
Thighs: 22"
Biceps: 11 1/2"


Wow, that was totally liberating and kind of scary. Anyway, as a thank you for helping me attempt to stick to this program, I want to motivate you in return. And I thought, what better way to do that than a giveaway. So, one lucky reader will win two things that keep me moving: FOOD and MUSIC.




The winner will receive a box of 6 Clif Bars - Chocolate Brownie and a $15 iTunes Gift Card. Here's how to enter. (One Comment Per Entry Please)


1. Become a follower of this blog and leave me a comment to let me know you did.

2. Become a fan of the Racing With Babes Facebook Page HERE and leave me a comment to let me know you did.

3. Repost this giveaway on your blog, Facebook, Twitter, etc and leave me a comment to let me know you did.

4. Leave me a comment to let me know what motivates you.


Entries will be accepted until Tuesday, April 20th. Winner will be selected at random and announced on Wednesday, April 21st.