Tuesday, May 31, 2011

fear of "what if" ...

I feel like I am stuck in a funny place right now. I know I am not entirely recovered from my injury, but I know that I am light years ahead of where I was a few weeks ago. I want to do more. But, I don't want to do too much. I want to get off the treadmill and run with my friends. But, I don't want to face the realities that doing that could bring. I want to jump in, feet first. But, I don't want to get too invested.

I am living with the fear of "what if."

What if I try and fail?
What if I try and actually succeed?
What if I'm too far behind?
What if it's more than I can handle?
What if I set myself back?
What if it happens again?
What if my fear is the only thing holding me back?
What if?
What if?
What if?

Having fear of "what if" is a dangerous. But, almost all of us are afflicted. Just think about it.

Why haven't you purged your closet? What if I need it later ...
Why haven't you changed your eating habits? What if I can't live without xyz ...
Why haven't you tried to reach your dreams? What if I don't make it ...
Why haven't you pushed yourself past comfortable? What if it hurts (emotionally, physically, etc) ...

Sure, all of those things are possible. That's the thing about "what if", it breeds self-doubt. But, consider this, what if everything turned out perfectly? What if the thing you thought you could never handle allows you to shine?

"What if" can be full of potential. You just have to let it be ...

19 comments:

Rene' said...

Just what I needed this am. thanks T!!!!

Jen said...

Way to help us turn the What ifs into positive things. Thanks, T!

Jessica (The Pace of Me) said...

great post. there is a quote (i don't know who said it) that i think about often: "what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?" -- fear of the "what ifs" can be paralyzing...and we miss out on so much if we don't give it a shot!!

Anne said...

Sounds like you just put your own fears of "what if" to rest :)
...one step at a time T and you'll be back out there with your running buddies!

Marlene said...

Definitely guilty of the "what if" mentality.

Don't let it stop you - just be smart!

joan said...

Definitely. I've definitely learned to never say never... However, I'm pretty sure I'll never jump out of an airplane. Ha! Seriously, you've done great and you'll be out there in no time!

Kortni said...

So true! The first step is always the hardest...

misszippy said...

True, through and through. Sometimes you've gotta take risks.

Elle said...

Enjoyed this thought provoking post.

Amanda@runninghood said...

great words girl!

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner said...

Good to be reminded that those what ifs can be positive outcomes too!

Alicia said...

Love this! Every time I've pushed past my limits, it's been good for me, whether I succeeded or not. You def have reason to be cautious but keeping pushing forward. You rock!

Deb said...

Fabulous post. I saw it first thing this morning in my facebook and love it. I linked to it in today's blog post too.

DEM said...

Great post! very thought provoking and REAL! I am a huge perpetrator of the "what if..." I have actually been trying to make a conscious effort to end it with the positive note such as "what if I really enjoy this, or meet someone new, or achieve a new goal"

Beth said...

What if you go on an easy run with your friends and its awesome? Maybe ease back in, but don't hold yourself back too much!

chirunner said...

"What if the thing you thought you could never handle allows you to shine?" Just what I needed to hear/read. Thanks.

Allison said...

I am definitely guilty of negative "what if" thinking. Thanks for pointing this out!

Jamoosh said...

"What if I try and actually succeed?"

That gets me all the time. I don't know why I am scared to succeed with my running...

Wifey said...

LOVE this! You're so damn inspiring.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey